The wise woman builds her house,
But the foolish pulls it down with her hands.
It’s time for us to start building. We have observed the beginning of the earth and all things in it. We saw that it was all created by God Himself, according to His masterful design and mighty power. We learned that God created man by His own hand, in His own image, for His own purposes, and then created the woman from the rib of man, designed by God Himself, and again for His own purposes. And then, we discovered God’s beautiful intention for man and woman to be joined as one flesh.
However, Satan entered the garden, deceived Eve, and wreaked havoc when the man and woman fell into sin. We then discovered that there is only One Redeemer Who can forgive and restore. Through all these beginnings, we came to understand where sin, lies, deception, and broken relationships originated and why those sinful qualities remain in the human heart today.
So, with the understanding of what went wrong and the hope of restoration that comes only from the Lord, it is time for us to begin building.
Here are some very basic truths about building:
Unless the Lord builds the house, they labor in vain who build it. Psalm 127:1
- All building, apart from the Lord, is vain (false, empty, worthless).
According to the grace of God which was given to me (the Apostle Paul), as a wise master builder I have laid the foundation, and another builds on it. But let each one take heed how he builds on it. For no other foundation can anyone lay, than that which is laid, which is Jesus Christ. 1 Corinthians 3:10-11
- All building must be on the correct foundation – the Lord Jesus Christ. There is none other.
Through wisdom a house is built, and by understanding it is established; By knowledge the rooms are filled with all precious and pleasant riches. Proverbs 24:3-4
- Once the correct foundation is laid, it will take wisdom, understanding, and knowledge to build – all of which come from the Lord. We must trust Him to show us how to apply His truth to our lives and homes that they may be filled with those precious and pleasant riches.
Therefore, whoever hears these sayings of Mine (Jesus), and does them, I will liken him to a wise man who built his house on the rock: and the rain descended, the floods came, and the winds blew, and beat on that house and it did not fall, for it was founded on the rock. Matthew 7:24-25
- A house properly built will withstand the storms of life!
The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish pulls it down with her hands.
With these truths in mind, we will begin to build by taking God’s truth and wisdom, one magnificent truth at a time, and discover how God will lead us to place them in our lives. It is important to note that our homes and families will not be carbon copies of one another. Every husband and wife relationship is unique, and each of our children is an individual creation of God, each with his own personality, abilities, strengths and weaknesses. The husband and wife and all their children come together to form a family /household. So, we need to understand, all households will differ.
Using the analogy of a house, all houses have some basic things that must be the same. All have foundations; all have upright supports; all have walls; all have windows; all have roofs. In the same way, there are some truths that should be evident in every Christian home – truths straight from the Word of God.
In many of the other facets of our homes, God gives much freedom. Just as in our analogy of an actual house, though there are those factors that all houses have, what variety we find among them. Floor plans, paint colors, décor and style all differ. Yet, the basic components of a house remain intact. Such is the case with the Christian home. There are no carbon copies, but ALL must exhibit the truth of the Word of God. It will take much discernment and careful building so that all our building is done to the glory of God.
I am looking forward to our next writing. Our foundation is laid. Time to build!
… But the foolish pulls it down with her hands.
Before we proceed to building, I would like to share with you a great mistake that I made as I became a Christian. Perhaps sharing this might keep you from making the same mistake. Foolishly, I did a lot of “tearing down”.
The mistake I made, which produced terrible results, was putting my eyes on my husband rather than on the Lord. It is so easy to look at a husband’s fallen human nature and think that the truth of the Word of God will never work in MY situation. It is easy to think: You don’t know MY husband. These things will NEVER work. Those thoughts will always produce more wrong thoughts, wrong words, and wrong actions. Those thoughts are the seeds that feed “tearing down”, rather than building up!
What I had to learn was not to look at David and his faults and failures, but to look at the Lord. I had to come to His Word to learn what He said to ME! That was challenging enough! I also had to learn to FULLY leave David in the Lord’s hands. I was completely unable to change my husband’s heart. I really couldn’t even change my own. Only the Lord can change a heart!
So here is where the Lord brought my heart.
Pray for my husband.
Trust the Lord to work in him.
Love him as the Lord loved me!
Come before the Lord humbly in prayer and in the Word.
Allow the Lord to change ME!
Be obedient to what He taught me.
Thank Him and praise Him all along the way.
Then, I was on my way to becoming a builder, leaving my foolish ways behind. Of course, this change took place over time. It was not an overnight change, but what a difference it made! Building, not pulling down!
So, Until Next Time:
With the Holy Spirit as your Building Inspector, check to see if you are ready to build:
Is Jesus Christ the foundation of your life?
Is He the foundation of your home?
Are you building with God’s wisdom – understanding how to apply truth to your daily life?
Spend time in prayer.
Trust the Holy Spirit to fully guide you into all truth.
Remember, unless the Lord builds the house, all our labors are in vain.
Every wise woman builds her house.
Now unto Him Who is able to do exceedingly abundantly
above all that we ask or think,
according to the power that works in us,
to Him be glory in the church
by Christ Jesus to all generations,
forever and ever,